When You're Drawing a Blank
Practical exercises for when you're completely stuck
You love this person. You know you do. But you're staring at a blank screen and nothing's coming. Don't panic — this is completely normal. Here's how to get unstuck.
Why It Happens
The pressure to sum up a whole relationship in a few sentences can be paralysing. Your brain freezes because it's trying to find the "perfect" thing to say. But here's the secret: there is no perfect. There's just real.
Chirpy's Pro Tip
You're not trying to say everything. You're trying to say one true thing.
Quick Unblocking Exercises
📱 The Scroll
Open your photos or texts with this person. Scroll until something makes you smile. That's your starting point.
🗣 The Interview
Call someone else who knows them. Ask: "What's the most [them] thing they've ever done?" Other people's perspectives unlock memories you've forgotten.
⏰ The Time Machine
Pick a specific day. Your last birthday. Last Christmas. A random Tuesday. Walk through it: What happened? What did they do?
❓ The Weird Question
What would they grab if the house was on fire? What do they always have in their bag? What's their most rewatched film? Strange questions lead to specific answers.
Lower the Stakes
You're not writing their biography. You're not capturing everything. You're finding one moment, one truth, one detail that makes them them. That's all. The song will do the rest.
Chirpy's Pro Tip
Still stuck? Try our Voice to Verse option — sometimes talking is easier than typing.
The blank page feels intimidating, but it's really just an invitation. Start anywhere. Start badly. Start with whatever comes to mind. You can always refine it — but first, you just need to begin.
Key Takeaway
When you're stuck, use photos, texts, timelines, or free-writing to unlock memories. The blank page is temporary—your memories are permanent.